Philosophy

Sexual Inquiry explores the unconscious beliefs that shape our approach to sexuality and relationships. It is a reflective, collaborative space where our triggers become possibilities to learn more about ourselves. Through acknowledging and working with whatever arises in the body in the present moment, we uncover truths about our conditioning, our histories and our desires for the future.

With patience, compassion and curiosity, we gently uncover the beliefs about sexuality and relationship that are directing your life without your awareness. This understanding creates a pathway to express yourself authentically and embrace eroticism, the creative life force that makes you come alive.

Understanding
Sexual Conditioning

The Problem We Address: Many of us were raised in societies, religious traditions and families of origin that presented confusing or harmful messages around sexuality:

  • Sex is dirty, dangerous, or wrong (but save it for someone you love!)

  • Desire is shameful

  • Love means self-sacrifice

  • Our bodies are not our own

  • Strict gender roles that limit our authentic expression

The Impact: These inherited scripts—often unconscious—shape how we experience:

  • Sexual desire and expression

  • Intimacy and vulnerability

  • Boundaries and consent

  • Confidence and self-worth

  • How we show up in relationships

  • Our connection to our own bodies

The Possibility: When we dissolve the barriers to being fully present with ourselves as sexual beings, we don't just shift how we relate to sex, love, or partnership. Unlearning these patterns help us to reconnect with the deeper core of who we are, bringing playfulness, expansion, and connection that support all areas of life.

Core Values

Intersectional approach: Addressing both trauma and sexual conditioning simultaneously

Beyond pathology: You're not broken - you're carrying inherited scripts that no longer serve you

Eroticism as life force: Reconnecting with authentic sexuality as a pathway to wholeness

Present-moment inquiry: Working with what's alive in your body and experience right now

Collaborative discovery: We explore together what becomes possible when old beliefs loosen their grip

How We Work

    • Intention Setting: Creating safety and agency over your process

    • Present Moment Awareness: "What are you in touch with right now?"

    • Body Inquiry: "How and where do you experience that feeling in your body?"

    • Conscious Exploration: Making unconscious beliefs about sexuality visible

    • Complete control over your process and pace, there is no agenda other than exploring what's present

    • Questions are always invitations, we respect your boundaries and comfort level at every step

    • Focusing on your innate wisdom and capacity for growth

    • A collaborative, reflective space for discovery

    • Our first 30-minute introduction call is complimentary and without any obligation to work together.

    • My hourly rate is 90€ / $100, and I offer sessions on reduced rate or trade basis. I’m happy to discuss what works for us both.

    • Life happens, I’ll do my best to accommodate schedule changes, but please notify me within 24 hours.

    • To maintain healthy boundaries, I prefer to keep digital social life and our work separate.

    • Everything we discuss is completely private and will never be discussed outside our sessions.

    • I use Proton Mail which is end-to-end encrypted and respected for their security features.

    • For online sessions we can use Zoom or Signal for desktop, which is more secure.

    • AI recaps are available on Zoom upon request, but please consider they store and use this data.

Topics to Explore

    • Deepening knowledge of your sexual identity and desire

    • Embracing sexual interests and fantasies

    • Learning to express authentic desire

    • Understanding gender identity and expression

    • Exploring kink, ethical non-monogamy and/or sex work

    • Practicing vulnerability or emotional intimacy

    • Reshaping patterns of self-sacrifice or people-pleasing in relationships

    • Establishing healthy boundaries and learning to honor saying and receiving no

    • Understanding the impact of trauma on sexual expression and intimate connection

    • Prioritizing authenticity in relation to attachment

    • Connecting to bodily wisdom and sensations

    • Unlearning shame about body image or physical appearance

    • Granting permission for sexuality to be a site of play and exploration

    • Opening to receive pleasure or experience orgasm

    • Working through fear or anxiety

    • Advocating for your needs and desires

    • Navigating consent and personal boundaries

    • Unlearning inherited beliefs about gender roles and power

    • Reclaiming your right to pleasure and authentic expression

    • Finding agency through power exchange or BDSM rituals

Ready to get started?

FAQ

  • I am happy to work with people of all ages, gender identities, ethnicities and geographies. While I have deeper experience working with members of the kink, non monogamous and sex work communities, I also love to guide people who are just beginning to explore their sexuality. All experience levels are welcome!

  • If you are curious to explore outside the office, I would be happy to be your guide to new sex positive spaces. These explorations may include going shopping for sex toys together, being your stylist, helping you to plan your first BDSM session, or even accompanying you to your first party. If you feel there is growth in exploring new spaces but don’t know how to start, I would be thrilled to be your guide.

  • That's completely normal and welcome. We go at your pace and honor your comfort level. Sometimes we start with general relationship patterns or body awareness. There's no pressure to dive into explicitly sexual topics. We can also discuss career, family relationships, or anything else that is present for you.

  • Safety is created through connection, consent, and honoring your boundaries. You remain in complete control, and we only explore what feels safe and relevant for you. You may always stop a line of inquiry or the session at any time. This is your space. However, the process may bring up difficult emotions or painful memories, and its important to have a support system in place when addressing these topics. We can discuss this on our introductory call.

  • Rather than focusing on sexual dysfunction or techniques, we explore the unconscious beliefs and inherited scripts that shape your entire relational and sexual experience. It's more about discovering who you are beneath the conditioning. When useful, I can also provide referrals, resources and recommendations for further learning.

  • That's exactly what we explore together. We're not trying to find a predetermined answer, but rather to get curious and discover what truly energizes and motivates you. We can also create experiments and plan experiences for you to try different things, and see what resonates most.

  • That's perfectly fine. We can start with whatever is present - a feeling, a sensation, even confusion itself. There's no agenda other than being with what's alive for you.

  • We work with overwhelm as information from your system. We'll slow down, breathe, and find what you need to feel resourced and present. We can always take a break and we may often discuss the fun stuff in life. It’s important to be present with the positive experiences of joy and strength as we grow, for knowing those feelings intimately is accessing our true nature.

  • Absolutely. I have moderated talks and workshops, hosted exhibitions and events, conducted research, designed products and created several working groups. Please get in touch to discuss your idea further!